This is a question Chris Prime of The Law of Attraction Centre recommends you ask yourself all day everyday to keep attracting what you want into your life.
I recently attended a workshop led by Chris at the St. Columba Centre in Ponsonby. He was reinforcing the principle which as become quite well known in the past couple of years due to the popularity of the DVD and book, "The Secret".
In two words, Chris summed up the 'job description' of the law of attraction as simply this: "Match Vibrations". He was emphasising the point that when we change our vibration, we change our results.
Chris told us one of the best ways to answer the question, 'What do I want?' is to make a list of everything you don't want first. It's often easier for us to identify what it is we don't like in our life than it is to focus on what we do want. Once we identify what it is that we don't want, this helps us to be much clearer about what it is we want. By using this exercise of contrast, we achieve clarity.
So, it was interesting that the evening workshop revolved around 'how to attract your ideal client' and I started practising what Chris suggested...by listing all the things I didn’t want in a client: no shows, lack of commitment, unresponsive to emails or calls, procrastinators, indecisive, unappreciative, inconsiderate, timewaster, nonpaying or latepaying, overly needy, etc...
Then, I created my list of opposites to get clear on what I did want in a client:
they seek me out, are healthy and balanced, reliable, committed, they keep appointments, are professional, responsive, they follow through are clear and decisive, and are ready now to start working with me, etc..
The very next day, after focusing on those positive qualities in a client that I did want,
I received two emails from professional women who wanted to book in to my workshop on 'Conscious Communication: The Key to Successful Relationships'.
Both of the people asked me to send them an invoice so they could pay in advance!
Wow...I like that kind of immediate confirmation :-)
The law of attraction was at work.
Another helpful hint Chris reminded me of was that it is our FEELING state that really counts with the law of attractions. Oftentimes, people can say the words to a positive affirmation, but if they don't FEEL it and BELIEVE it is actually in the process of happening, our desired goal will not be so easily achieved if at all. So, all the 'right words' are not enough.
We need to feel truthful inside ourselves when we say those words. So, for instance, if I say to myself, 'Quality clients are seeking me out now', that does not ring true at a feeling level for me. If, however, I say to myself, 'I love the thought of high quality clients seeking me out now', that IS true at a feeling level. By beginning my affirmation with
the words 'I love the thought of', I bring the statement into a more TRUE feeling vibration within myself and so raise the chances of my manifesting that reality more quickly in my life.
Other phrases which help affirmations to be more true-feeling are ones such as:
'I’m in the process of...'
'I love how it feels...'
'I love the thought of...'
'It excites me..'
All of these phrases help to remove DOUBT which is the major factor which blocks your desires manifesting OR at least slows the process down.
Last year, I heard another Law of Attraction teacher speak in Auckland,
Dr. John Demartini . He added another dimension to the Secret or 'the law of attraction'.
His perspective was that we all need to acknowledge that the abundance already IS, and that we ALL have EQUAL amounts of abundance, just in different areas. Our lives are reflections of our priorities and what we feel is important. So to someone who loves to fish, for instance, his abundance may show up as lots of time to be out on the water fishing. To a mother of five, for example, her abundance may be in lots of love and affection from her children. To a business person, abundance may look like a lot of sales.
This point hit home with me when a friend of mine, who died of cancer last year, attended Dr. De Martini's 'Breakthrough Experience' weekend in New Zealand just before she died. She spoke of how she began to see that the experience of Cancer was such a wonderful blessing in her life.
Dr. DeMartini asked her to write 100 gifts that the cancer had brought her, so that she was focused on the gratitude for the abundance that was present even with Cancer. Some of the things it brought her were more intimacy with family and friends, the ability to allow herself to be cared for when she had been fiercely independent beforehand, and the ability to really know the essence of Life and of her self, when all the outer forms of identity had been stripped away.
So, if you don't know WHAT it is that you want,how about starting with focusing on GRATITUDE for what you already have? If you need a bit of assistance focusing positively, there are plenty of books on 'Gratitude'.
One practice I like to use myself was inspired by reading the book by Esther and Jerry Hicks, 'Ask and It is Given'. If you’re wanting to cultivate a feeling of gratitude, practice brainstorming everything you're grateful for in your life for about 2 minutes straight. Don't edit yourself. Just keep going. List everything that pops into your mind even if it seems silly or small.
Louise Hay, a well-known proponent of gratitude, recommends the book on Gratitude by author and speaker, M.J. Ryan, 'Giving Thanks: The Gifts of Gratitude'. There are plenty of other resources you can find - just contact me if you want some suggestions :-)
Here's to all of us celebrating our abundance and attracting more and more of what we want into our lives. Let’s start by BEING more and more of who we want to be and by being GRATEFUL for what it is we ALREADY have and WHO we already are!
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